The Internet floods us with ideas, tips, and
tricks for couples to grow in their relationship with God. Sifting through it
all can get overwhelming. Which works and which doesn’t? Let’s separate the
wheat from the chaff and look at the ideas that truly work.
Cognitive biases are those sneaky little brain shortcuts that happen without us even realizing it. They make life more efficient and most of the time are helpful… but sometimes they can backfire too! Today we’ll look at three more of these biases so you know what they are, why they happen and how to stop them from messing with your marriage!
Cognitive biases are assumptions and judgments and error that our brains
automatically make without us even knowing it’s happening. They are like
automatic mental shortcuts. But the problem is: they could be messing with your
marriage without either of you even realizing it!
So what if you are in a marriage that you are totally committed to but
really not enjoying or appreciating. You are unhappy but it is quite a stable
situation. And you aren’t leaving. How can you make the most of this situation?
We’ll look at how folks find themselves in a spot like this and how to make the
most of it.
Most times when Christian podcasters take up a topic like this we tend to get preachy about not entering into an unequal yoke, where you have a Christian marrying a non-Christian. While we fully agree with the truth of Scripture on that subject, in this episode we want to look at this issue more from the perspective of how to best face this issue as a couple when you find yourselves in a marriage where you don’t share your religious values, or even don’t share convictions about your faith to nearly the same degree.
Today we navigate the thorny territory of physical attractiveness and
what happens when you feel like you’re just not attracted anymore. The answer
to this dilemma is maybe not what you would expect!
More than 1 in 6 people regularly work shifts outside of the normal
Monday to Friday work week[i].
In today’s episode we want to look at some of the unique challenges that
shiftwork can bring to marriage. And not only the challenges but how you can work
together as a couple to make the most of life even when it is hard to see each
other due to one or both of you being involved in shift work.
Having a fight with your spouse is a stressful, upsetting experience that can leave you bewildered, frustrated and feeling stuck. In this episode, we want to give you a straightforward strategy that you can use to help break yourselves out of a downward spiral of increasing conflict and unhappiness.
Today’s
episode is on the lighter side. But did you know that researchers have actually
done studies on the phenomenon of the man cold or man flu? You may be wondering
if it’s really worse for a man to have a cold than for a woman? Well: like we
say every time, we have the research, the truth and the answers you’re looking
for!
Thankfully,
losing a child is a relatively rare event. However, this tragedy still happens
to some in our world. And one of the common concerns I hear expressed is
concern for the marriage of those who have lost a child. There seems to be a real
perception that couples who lose a child are more likely to experience the
failure of their marriage. We explore the research on this today and then turn
towards helping each other through the grief.
The classic domestic abuse scenario is a husband beating his wife. I
think almost all of society gets that and understands it’s wrong. Then you have
husbands that are emotionally and psychologically abusive: people are still
struggling to accept this as a form of domestic violence, but more and more are
understanding this is a severely devastating problem for a wife. But today we
are going to cover the least well known and least understood situation: the
abusive wife. As it turns out, women are capable of the same mindset and
actions that abusive men are capable of.
Who knew that something as generic as generosity could transform your marriage? It has the potential to increase marital quality, make conflict resolution easier, increase your own happiness, help you to see other people’s perspectives, decrease divorce risk… Basically, make everything better except for my poor finger…