Fight The Problem – Not Each Other!
Conflict can be such a painful, frustrating experience. Is it really possible to turn conflict into an opportunity to grow closer rather than it being a catalyst to push you further apart?
Helpful Resources for Conflict
Always Fighting About the Kids?
On the Marriage Podcast for Smart People we don’t often talk about parenting. But when it’s impacting your marriage, then it’s our business!
The One Thing Every Distressed Marriage is Doing Wrong
Did you know that some of the very things you do to try to save your distressed marriage are in actual fact destroying it? Seriously. What is even more shocking is that they exist in every marriage.
Sex Drive – Differences Can Be a Problem
So, you want less sex than your spouse does. Is that a problem? Well, it turns out that’s a question for your spouse. But if it is a problem, today we’re going to help you navigate your way through this delicate issue.
What To Do When Your Spouse Doesn’t Want To Work On The Marriage
What do you do when you want to fix your marriage and your spouse doesn’t think there’s a problem? Or maybe sees the problem but refuses to work on it?
Who Wears The Pants In Your Marriage?
This is the second part of a topic that’s pretty common and can be pretty difficult for a lot of couples. It’s really just the idea that the wife is running the marriage and family and the husband is the breadwinner but not really engaged or involved as much as they would like him to be. We’re assuming you want to change that.
How to Rebuild Trust in Your Marriage
Even if it feels impossible at this moment, I want you to know that it is possible to rebuilt trust, to create safety and to restore intimacy to your marriage. I’m not saying it’s going to be easy or simple. I can’t even promise that your trust will never be broken again. But I am saying that it is possible.
How to Disagree Without Sinking Your Love Boat
OK. So you had ANOTHER fight – another disagreement. It’s like, man, are we ever going to stop fighting? Remember, the goal is not achieving zero disagreements, it’s learning to disagree productively!
3 Ways To Support Your Spouse When You Disagree
I know what you’re thinking.
Why on earth would I want to support my spouse when we’re fighting?
Well, because you want to stay married, that’s why. That’s the “brutally-loving” truth!
But, there’s more.
It makes fighting productive. Yes. That’s right. I mean it. It actually makes the conflict helpful for your marriage.
It’s Not Always My Fault!
Do you find yourself always taking the blame for everything? I mean, not so much in the sense that your spouse won’t accept any, but that you just find that YOU blame yourself for everything? Even your spouse thinks you take too much responsibility for things?
Let It Go or Confront It?
As I sit here, gazing at a picture of my handsome husband, I am asking myself the question, “Should I talk to him about it? It has been bugging me for a few days… Oh, I know! I’ll just shoot him a text message and hint at it – that’ll work out well!”
NOT!
Distraction is Killing Your Marriage
In 2015, couples are saying that communication is their biggest struggle. Why, when we’ve never had so many ways to communicate and keep in touch as we do now, are people still struggling with this?